The mistake most teams make is choosing a model by how long the prompt looks. A 700-token brief for a re-send is still an easy task, and a 90-token brief for a first cold ask to a senior hiring manager is still hard. What matters is how much judgment the note needs about a human relationship.
Referral requests go wrong for a predictable reason: the vague version puts the other person in an impossible position, because they do not know what you actually want and feel pressure to either solve your problem or ignore you Applyre's referral guide. That framing defines the real axis for routing. The more the draft depends on reading a relationship, the less a cheap model should touch it.
I use four shapes, and each one gets a fixed route:
| Shape | What the draft must do | Model tier | Why |
|---|---|---|---|
| Re-send of a warm intro | Restate the same ask to the same person, add one new line of context | Small | The relationship is already established and the ask is unchanged |
| Follow-up after a call | Thank them, reference one specific thing from the call, confirm the next step | Small | Copy is short and the facts come from the call notes |
| Factual nudge | Remind the referrer that the role closes or the recruiter asked for the resume | Small | No persuasion, no emotional weight, verifiable facts |
| First cold ask | Establish who you are, name the role, make a limited ask, give an easy out | Strong | Requires calibration of tone to a thin relationship |
| Apology for a slow reply | Own the delay, reconnect, then ask | Strong | Tone is the whole message; a flat apology costs the relationship |
| Note acknowledging a rejection | Thank them for the referral that did not convert, keep the door open | Strong | Has to hold disappointment without pressure |
| Draft weaving the referrer's own words | Quote or paraphrase what they said about the team, then connect it to the ask | Strong | Getting someone's own language wrong is the fastest way to lose the favor |
The pattern behind the table is simple. When the relationship is already settled and the facts are in the brief, a small model has nothing to decide. When the draft has to judge how much warmth, contrition or persistence the relationship can bear, the strong model earns its cost.
This mirrors how routing works in production systems more broadly: you eliminate models that cannot meet a hard requirement, then optimize among what remains, and capability routing should happen before cost optimization the LLM routing guide. Relationship judgment is a hard requirement. Token count is not.



